Unconditional Love: Should it Be the Goal?

Love. We want it. Need it. Even during this time of social distancing due to the novel coronavirus. Maybe we need love even more now so we can try to manage issues related to isolation and loneliness. (I’ll have a post on these issues soon.)

But should love be given without any conditions? And can we control who we love? Had another discussion on my YouTube channel with guest Damien Dubose to discuss how adults can show love—whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or with family. We limited the talk to adults, because the relationships people have with children shouldn’t be subject to conditions. But for adults, who decide how to treat us—and for us, as we decide what kind of treatment to accept—the question of love without conditions can get interesting.

Tune into the video to see what we settled on and feel free to tell me what you think. Also feel free to subscribe to my channel (username: lesliequander) for future content.

Finally, no matter what, love is important. But if you’re looking for more practical tips on how to handle social contact now, see this related post from Johns Hopkins Medicine. As we continue to practice social distancing to help prevent the spread of COVID-19 infection, I’m wishing you the best and hope you can stay safe.

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Dating: Why We Need Boundaries—and How to Create Them

Whether I’m editing a story about relationships or writing one, dating is a subject that can be top of mind for me—and lots of us. Millions of us, perhaps. (More than 110 million Americans were single in 2016 alone, the U.S. Census Bureau reported in 2017, with millions now dating online and beyond.)

But all of this dating isn’t going well, as you might know if you’ve dipped into these waters.

I figured it was time to talk about this topic on video. Especially since, when it comes to men and women who are dating, there can be miscommunications about intentions, what people really want vs. what they accept…and more.

I mean, we live in the era of ghosting. Clearly some things aren’t right.

These discussions also led me to reinvigorate my YouTube channel, which you can find at www.youtube.com/user/lesliequander. So, please view this video I did with Damien Dubose—I wanted to include the male side of the discussions I’ve been having—and tell me what you think.

“Women need to demand more.” Watch my YouTube channel for the rest—including how to do it.

We talked about wanting to be asked out vs. being asked to “Netflix and chill,” what it means to have standards and really enforce them, and people who pretend to care—but don’t.

He started by telling me: “Women need to demand more.”

Mic drop. (But we kept going!)

Do listen, and please subscribe to my YouTube channel for more on relationships, writing, wellness, and more.

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